This may sound emotional or dramatic. But I’m gunna say it – life is short.
For most of us, we don’t know how much time we have left.
I’m not saying this to make you feel sad or regretful, simply to highlight a truth. Like me, I imagine you have lost someone important to you in your life. Often those moments of grief and heart ache, we remember how fleeting life is. Maybe you have been close to death’s door yourself. And then life “happens” and we move on and back to the things we think are important.
What do you want more time for?
Time. Is the number one thing I hear most from people when I ask them what they want more of in their life. And here’s the big question – what you do want more time for?
You know what I’ve discovered in my years of coaching? Most of us want more time to do the things that really matter to us. More time with our family, our partners, friends and kids. Time to cook a real meal and take that trip you’ve always wanted. To be with the people we love when they are well and also, when they are dying. To travel, find love, learn a new skill. All the things that matter.
Where does the time go?
I woke up earlier this week to a big to do list. I felt like I was swimming in “stuff.” Hours later the list wasn’t any smaller. Have you experienced that? The only thing that got smaller was my patience and the hours left in the day. The worst part? I had forgotten to call my mom. That was more important than anything on the list. In that moment the to do’s didn’t matter so much anymore. Someone I care deeply about did.
Make time for what matters.
It’s the holiday season, a time when most of us make time for those we care about. Parties and cookies and tree lights. This holiday, I invite you to ask yourself – do you like where your time is going? Is it with those you love and the things on your real to do list? If not, what do you want to do about that?
Those things and people you want more time for, give them more time. Give them your time, give them your presence.
Wishing you presence and time with those you love this holiday time. See you in the new year.