Why going with the flow doesn’t get you to where you want to be. And what does.
What comes up for you when I ask you the mirror of this question: Do you doubt yourself?
Trust is the core of every single relationship. Think about all the things you trust on a day to day basis: where you buy your food, the quality of a product or service, that the lights in your home will turn on when you flick the switch.
There’s a part of you that needs your daily attention. No matter what the day brings. No matter what’s on your calendar.
It’s not your meditation practice (though you know I stand behind that).
It’s not your mind.
Or your heart.
And it’s definitely not your inbox.
A visit to the ER
I recently spent some time in the ER (not to worry, I’m ok!). This moment really highlighted that this one part of me, of you — of all of us — is truly the number one priority. Without it, little else is possible.
Years ago I had an auto-immune virus that gave me single-sided deafness. This means that I am 100% deaf in my right ear (It’s partly why I love heart hugging).
When I found out I was hearing impaired I spent the next year in intense anxiety. I didn’t know if I could coach or teach or be in loud places. I remember being afraid of falling asleep because I wouldn’t be able to hear if someone came into the house if my “good” ear was down. It was a scary time.
This week I woke up with pain in my good ear. Just. Like. Last. Time. I went to the hospital terrified of losing all hearing. It turned out to be a bad sinus infection; crisis averted, and a big realization came to me.
Your Basic Needs
Most of my coaching clients needs support with tending to they basic needs. If you’ve taken a Resiliency workshop with me you’ll be familiar with this concept. It’s so important that it takes up a whole module in my online coaching immersion Take Off.
I’m talking about your fundamentals.
Essentially, fundamentals are at the bottom row of Maslow’s famous hierarchy of needs and consist of: sleep, food, water, and movement.
Ultimately, fundamentals are about your number one priority:
Without your body, little else is possible
If you’ve been sick, have a disability, a mental health challenge, or a chronic condition that you manage every day - this is your body.
Basic needs are all about your body. How can you actualize your greatness if you’re not sleeping? How can you have healthy relationships if your body is in crisis? How do you feel safe if your body is on alert?
It’s hard to be the a great boss or parent or friend if you are physically struggling.
Your body needs your daily attention. Period. No matter what the day brings. No matter what’s on your calendar. No matter what else is important. What do you need to shift in your life so that you are tending to your fundamentals?
Are you sleeping well?
Are you eating foods that feed you?
Are you drinking water?
Are you moving your body?
Some things that happen to you are out of your control. Some aren’t. Don’t wait until your body is in crisis to care for it.
It's the start of a new year. Are you ready? Is your vision clear and ready to be activated?
If your answers are yes - go forth and take action. If your answers are no, make now when you crystallize your vision. No judgment needed, simply get to it.
"The distance between your dreams and your reality is action."
There are likely 10+ reasons you can think of to keep yourself small this year. Doubt, fear, obligations, unhelpful habits, unhealthy relationships, not enough time/money/space/energy. While there are real blocks many people face (think systemic racism, social injustice, poverty, and homelessness), some blocks exist solely in your mind. If they're in your mind, they are in your power to remove.
Your Moment Coaching Question
This month's Moment Coaching question is about committing to the number one person you are responsible to. Take a breath and dive in.
Here are my highlights from 2018. And... here are my goals for 2019.